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Kathmandu Tuesday December 18, 2001 Paush 03, 2058.
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X-cultural marriage
The article titled "X-cultural
marriage" (Sunday Post, December 16, TKP) was just ridiculous. Inter-cultural
marriage or inter-caste marriage has been in practice for centuries. The only thing is
that people did not write on this subject. As same-culture marriage, it needs mutual
understanding, a bit of sacrifice, some learning and teaching from and to each other. This
has been a rule of nature. These are equally important for other sorts of marriages. There
is no guarantee that the marriages tied between men and women from the same culture, caste
or geographic region will prosper if the above mentioned criteria are not fulfilled.
Obviously, if both the bride and the groom agree to live for the whole life on certain
level of understanding, everything is possible.
The author is only thinking about the Aryans
and the Mongolians. Actually, there are hundreds of other types of "x-cultural"
marriage in Nepal. Just think what would happen if a Newari girl, who celebrates one
festival or another every week is married to a Bahun who has hardly half a dozen festivals
in a whole year? But it is going on. Even in Newars there are dozens of sub-castes and
they do manage.
The only thing is that both the male and the
female should come from similar professional backgrounds. The priest’s son who
marries a politician’s or customs officer’s daughter must suffer for the rest of
life. That is why society prefers the same-caste marriage. It is explicit, Khaniya has
just ventured an "x-cultural" marriage and is quite exciting.
Rupa Mathema
Basantapur, Kathmandu |
